Why does your partner want you to get a less demanding job? For health reasons or is it a quality time issue? Does your partner have an income? These... may be some of the questions you’d want to consider. If your partner does have an income and it would cover the 25% loss and allow your household to maintain while providing it peace and good health, then perhaps you should. If not then you may want to have a more in-depth conversation to get to the root of the matter.

All the best to you. more

I wouldn't make the decision based solely on either money or the relationship. I'd look at what the 25% actually means for your household.

If losing... 25% still allows you to comfortably pay your bills, save, handle emergencies, and maintain a reasonable quality of life, I'd seriously consider taking the less demanding job; especially if the current job is damaging the relationship.

But if that 25% means you can't afford your necessities, lose your ability to save, or create financial stress that could eventually become another source of conflict, then I'd look for another solution before taking the pay cut.

I'd ask my partner what specifically would change if I took the less demanding job. More time together? Less stress? Being home for dinner? Weekends without work? Then I'd see whether there are ways to create those changes without immediately giving up 25% of your income.

Money matters in a relationship, but so does time. more

I think you know success isn't worth the price when you're constantly sacrificing the life you're working so hard to build just to maintain the image... of having made it. A prestigious title and a bigger paycheck can look impressive to everyone else while you're privately losing your peace, your health, and your connection with the people you love.

**But here's the question I'd ask: What's the point of building a life that looks successful to everyone else if you no longer have the time, energy, or happiness to enjoy it yourself?**

That doesn't necessarily mean you made the wrong decision. Maybe the opportunity taught you what you truly value. Success should support the life you want, not consume it. And sometimes, the bravest career move isn't climbing higher it's having the courage to redefine what success means to you. more

Be target worker and please respect the target. When you achieve don't extend and please be a family man by making efforts to reach them in shortest... interval. Relationship is boosted by Money and attention concurrently. If one is missing........ eeeeeeh 😌 more

I'm guessing, you are in the position where you're going to work of multiple people. You're too valuable to promote. I suggest you drop the tesks... that's not your actual job. Start looking for a new job at your same position are higher. more

I wouldn’t quietly leave without first addressing it, but I also wouldn’t put all my trust in the conversation being fixed. I’d calmly ask my manager... whether speaking honestly about an unsustainable workload has affected how I’m being viewed or considered for projects. Their response and more importantly, their actions afterward would tell a lot.

Because “resilience” shouldn’t mean silently tolerating an unhealthy situation until you break. Sometimes speaking up isn’t a lack of resilience; it’s what resilience looks like before the damage becomes permanent. And if an organization punishes you for trying to prevent burnout, that’s information worth paying attention to.

I’d have the conversation, document what happens, keep doing my job professionally, and quietly explore my options. You don’t have to choose between standing up for yourself and protecting your future. more

Ohhh well while your family appreciates that you work for them,please create time also,it’s doable.

Thank God for the work to support your family but remember you are the head of your house hold your wife and kids needs you be at home after work is... very important needs good communication with your family don't forget God first then family.  more

Sit with him and take decision together consider the negative side and positive side ,don't be selfish because you are one

I think both careers should matter in a marriage. Since you've supported his career for years and now have an opportunity of your own, I believe you... both deserve a chance to discuss a solution that respects each person's goals. Have you considered exploring opportunities in the new location or remote work before making a final decision? I hope you find a solution that works for both of you. ❤️ more

The kids will always turn out fine.
Chase your goals king.

The reason I am still at the area I work currently because my child(ren). It worth it please.

Same experience with me. What makes mine different is that I lost both. Right now am unemployed and Single with dependants. Very stressful. Hope I... don't end my life. more

Just keep moving dear,it's not easy but with God all things are possible everything will become a story someday.

You can still work from home and set Time frame for work

I wonder if your husband has things going on at home when you are at work and he doesn't want you to find out!

I would assist them if needed but not fully train them. That's what management should budget for.

first of all, look at your family's financial situation, Without the promotion, are you all okay financially to handle or run your family? Is your... husbands income enough to support you without the promotion? Is there any form of jealousy from your husband?

Your answers to all these will give directions. I do hope you get a right choice, if you are able to balance career and family, then go for it. If it comes with more money and might put your family at stake, then consider family.
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Sit down with your Boss. Share with him/her that you apprecaite the promotion, however there is one thing that is concerning you. Share with them that... your marriage is your top priorty, will I be able to perform this new duty with in the same hourly framework that I have been working, if yes, that's great! If the new position will require more hours, I may have to decline the offer. Mr/Mrs Boss, I do hope you understand ! Thank You more

What exactly does "more housework" mean? Who was doing it before now? Why is doing housework problematic?.... In what specific way is it affecting... your relationship? We need a lot of perspective to comment properly on this issue more

Why are women so lazy today... If he's handling the bills then freaking clean it's simple. Teach the kids not to mess up give them structure. ... Geez... Yes as you should and you should want too.. but I will say if you have a full time job ... Cut hours...to balance maybe more

Well said

From a counselling perspective, if you and your wife agreed that you would take a less demanding job to handle childcare, it is unfair to later make... you feel inadequate for honouring that agreement. Bringing a lower income, raising children, and supporting your spouse’s career are responsibilities, not signs of a lack of ambition. However, attraction cannot be forced. Your wife is entitled to her feelings, just as you are entitled to dignity and appreciation. Have an honest conversation about her new expectations and whether you still want the same things from your marriage. If she has genuinely lost her attraction to you and found it elsewhere, let her go in peace. Do not neglect your children, abandon your values, or constantly prove your worth to remain desirable; marriage must be about love.

Your worth is not measured by your salary or someone else's attraction to you. A marriage should be built on mutual respect, shared responsibility, and appreciation—not shifting goalposts. more

Yes Manager is wrong. Manager is not an ideal leader. Maybe more self serving

Your boss sounds like an idiot.
Find a different job.

St. Peter says, "You're in luck. God has an opening and can see you right away." So, the man goes up tp God and says, "I believed in you and ... abandoned me." God tilts his head an says, "I sent you a car, a boat and a helicopter. What else did you want?" God may provide, but it's up to us to do the footwork.
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A man lived close to a river. One day the sheriff drove up to his house, where a man was in his rocking on his porch. The sheriff told the man he need... to get in the car. The man replied, "I believe in God and he will provide." A little while later the water from the rising river was lapping at the man's porch. A boat came by and the man in the boat told the man in the rocking chair to get in the boat, because the river would continue to rise and the man in the rocking chair would drown. His reply was, "I believe in God and he will provide." Eventually the man had to climb on top of his roof. Just then a helicopter flew overhead and the man on the roof heard the pilot yell down to him, "This is your last chance. I'll lower the rope and you can climb up. Of course, the man once again said, "I believe in God and he will provide." Well, you guessed it, the man drowned. When he arrives at the pearly gates, he walks up to St. Peter and says, "I'm really angry and I need to speak with God." more

It's not the job it's the people

Yes, pls leave. Your wife is completely right. Ask for a time off or short sick leave or take your sick days. Since it's already affecting your... health, ask your family doctor to write you a note so that you can still be paid while on sick leave. I don't know your workplace and how sick days are handled. Speaking from my employer perspective. more

Hi Anon,
Cognitive dissonnance is arguably one of the key reasons why people leave their jobs - and many of them do so on an emotional fling. The... better way to do it is to make an exit plan in which, wherever your ambition leads you, you will not be left in a financial crisis. If you are hunting for another job, do so very discreetly. If you are preparing to go off on your own, make sure that you have alreday started it and it is sufficiently capable of sustaining you while you grow it.
After 24 years in teh corporate world, I left at teh age of 46 to start my own consultancy. Now, almost 20 years later, I am the owner of two companies, have a steady income, have a great staff complement of 8 self-sufficient people and I enjoy going to work every day! You can get all of that and more.  more

Good to be ambitious within the confine of family virtues. No wealth is enough looking at wealthy people in the world always chasing for more.... Contentment is the way to go, though not easy too. Wealth can disappear any time, so diversity is important that only come with promotion. You can not just remain in one position. You staff come and pass while you are there content only to start complaining later. Talk it over with your mate to get his or her logic but it's not worth avoiding climbing up the ladder. Frustration will be overwhelming in your final years of working life. My one cent.  more

Good to be ambitious within the confine of family virtues. No wealth is enough looking at wealthy people in the world always chasing for more.... Contentment is the way to go, though not easy too. Wealth can disappear any time, so diversity is important that only come with promotion. You can not just remain in one position. You staff come and pass while you are there content only to start complaining later. Talk it over with your mate to get his or her logic but it's not worth avoiding climbing up the ladder. Frustration will be overwhelming in your final years of working life. My one cent.  more