That’s an incredibly difficult situation, especially when you and your husband have both been dealing with employment challenges while trying to... provide stability for your family.

Regarding the unpaid wages, I would document everything you have—messages, emails, the days and hours you worked, the agreement regarding your pay, and any promises that were made about payment. Depending on where you live, there may be a labor or employment agency that can help you pursue wages you are legally owed.

At the same time, try not to let this experience discourage you from continuing your job search. Taking a lower-paying position to help your family wasn’t a failure—it demonstrated determination and a willingness to keep moving forward during a very difficult period.

Sometimes circumstances knock us backward, but perseverance means continuing to look for the next opportunity even when the path forward isn’t easy. I hope a much better opportunity comes your way soon.
Hope this helps... more

An after hours work event should not be mandatory. You typed "Now I'm worried. I'm being perceived as lazy". Are these your words? Has anyone in... authority called you that or said anything? If not, don't put unnecessary pressure on yourself. If yes, they should put it in writing and allow you time to respond. They haven't so why worry?  more

I wouldn’t start staying late simply for the sake of appearances, especially if you’re consistently meeting your deadlines and producing quality work.... There’s an important difference between being productive and simply being visible.

That said, workplace culture can influence how people perceive commitment, so it may be worth paying attention to whether those late hours are actually expected or whether coworkers have simply developed that habit. If you’re concerned, a conversation with your manager about your performance and expectations could provide some clarity.

Commitment should ultimately be measured by the quality and consistency of your work—not by how long your online status stays green. more

I don’t think you were being unreasonable. Commitment to your career is important, but so is being present for meaningful family moments—especially... something like your child’s birthday.

Occasionally, a role may require after-hours events or extra flexibility, particularly at more senior levels. But I’d be concerned if missing one event for an important family commitment is being interpreted as a lack of dedication. I’d probably have a conversation with the manager to better understand their expectations going forward.

Being committed to your career shouldn’t require proving that your job will always come before your family. Good organizations recognize the importance of both. more

I guess your boss never heard of "work life balance". If its not mandatory you have no obligaation to be there. And your commitments are inline with... your family responsibilities and values! more

I think it’s reasonable to push back, especially if this is happening several times a week. Senior roles can certainly require flexibility, and... occasionally working through lunch may come with greater responsibility, but that shouldn’t automatically mean your lunch break becomes a regularly scheduled meeting block.

I’d address it professionally rather than making it confrontational. Let your manager know you’re happy to accommodate an occasional lunch meeting when necessary, but you’d prefer to keep that time available to step away and recharge whenever possible. Setting that boundary doesn’t mean you’re less committed to your role.

Flexibility is part of leadership, but healthy boundaries are what make that level of responsibility sustainable. more

​I went through a similar situation a few times. Whenever my boss called me over during lunch, I would stop eating and talk with him for the entire... break. Afterward, I asked for an extra 30 minutes to finish my meal. He refused, claiming I was supposed to eat while we talked. I replied that in my culture, we were taught not to talk while eating to avoid biting our tongues. After that, whenever he scheduled a lunch discussion, I stayed consistent in not eating while talking, and he eventually started giving me at least 15 minutes to finish my food. more

Someone shall start Minding his or her business. He shall start knowing the limitations of every work. It is your dirty to work and go home and not... to destroy it. If the worker is not satisfied, such can leave peacefully. more

Hey Guys: Ease up. He is already feeling bad. Shaming him is not helping him. Instead, give him advice on how to make it right. My suggestion is to... fess up and apologise. more

You are paid for the competencies and skills you possess, not for your free time. Your boss is lying. A career in such an environment is dead anyway... because after a few years in such a workplace you will be spiritually dead too. more

Is this considered on-call or is it over and above. Frankly, you are being taken advantage of. Ask this question, “will someone die if you don’t... respond.” If the answer is no, then it just isn’t that important.  more

Yes. I did. I did not regretted. Money will not replace the only currency you have, which is time. You have spent your currency on your family and... yourself. Those who give their currency for money devalue their time just as the money they sold their time for devalues ​​over time. You will stay healthier more

I’m sure some have but statistically most don’t. Why? Because ultimately it becomes part of your work history and experience and your opportunities... and pay will be based off that. Not saying you made a bad move. The only mistake you made is comparing yourself to others which is the worse thing to do in life period. I believe you will make the a move when the time is right for you. more

YES.

YES.

He's an asshole. My wife also earned more while I was more involved with my two sons. Now we have two healthy men who are independent of us, and I... continue to build a career. They love me more than their mom :)) more

its all confidence of the individuals, your wife has more confidence than you, not only in salaries and also in demands. raise your level first till... then accept her demands. thats good for your family  more

You are not married. Both of you build yourself, your career, your life, the rest will fall into place either with that person or without that person.

I understand your pain, but trust me, I'm in the same shoes, and the best advice I can give you is that Family comes first. If you're a man, I suggest... you speak reasonably with your partner, communicate clearly, and be open to listening to her so you know what she really wants.
On the other hand, if you're a lady like me...Hmm, I suggest you also speak clearly and be open with your man; I am currently experiencing that, and I couldn't travel because I have 2 kids. Guess what I had to let go.
A job lost can be found, but a family lost is dead gone. My opinion, though. more

Thanks so much Steven

Hey where are you from if i may ask sounds like you should look into construction or the being security. Pay well and flexible.

Just learn to be flexible

Is there a time zone difference that requires meetings to take place after 5? Need more context.

It’s unfortunate that some won’t confront their management when situations such as yours occurs. Simply put you deserve to get compensation for the... work you do. Now it’s not uncommon for individuals considered “management “ to work extra hours, but when it comes to you working the extra hours there’s a problem. Have the conversation, be professional and never think of it as personal, yet strictly business. more

Right up to the point that you feel it is and the financial remunerations are not there. Frankly, I would argue it’s already passed acceptable.

Only unless you don’t understand the rules of the game. If unlimited vacation meant you also have to keep up with your workload , it was either not... communicated or you were not paying attention. more

None, work is work, remember the manager also take instructions from the above just give three days on-site a chance. You've been working 5 days... on-site before you started working at home. Been there done that, and there wasn't a problem. Keep up the good work.  more

None of the options. I will give the 3 days onsite work a trial.

Congratulations on the offer. Dialogue with your former employer and consider also o what the new offer takes

Congratulations on the offer. Dialogue with your former employer and consider also o what the new offer takes

This is one of those decisions where I don’t think the answer has to be simply the dream job or the relationship.
Traveling 2–3 weeks every month is... a significant lifestyle change, and even when a partner wants to be supportive, the reality of spending that much time apart can be difficult.

Before accepting, I’d have a very open conversation about what the travel would actually look like, how both of you feel about it, and whether there are ways to make it more manageable. I’d also find out whether the employer offers any flexibility with the travel schedule.

A dream job can be an incredible opportunity, but the people we share our success with matter too.

The best career opportunity is one that moves your professional life forward without unnecessarily sacrificing what matters most in your personal life. more

This happened to me and my husband when we first got married. It was so stressful. But we adjusted. But we protected weekends and maintained routines... with communication to make it easier. But I won't lie. It's tough. I travel a lot for my work. It bothers me more than it does my husband. But I found that it always works out. more

A 40% raise is certainly significant, but I think it’s important to look beyond the salary and consider the total cost of the opportunity. Two hours... of commuting every day could easily add up to 10 hours a week—time that you currently have for family, personal interests, or simply enjoying life.

I’d compare not only the additional income, but also commuting expenses, benefits, career growth, work environment, and how much you personally value the flexibility you have now. Sometimes a higher salary represents a genuine step forward; other times, once you factor in the time and lifestyle changes, the increase isn’t quite as large as it initially appears.

Compensation matters, but your time has value too—and unlike money, you can’t earn more of it. more

Or move to be closer if you love it that much..

I don't think it is dishonest. It is the employer's responsibility to check into such matters.

AND I'm so sorry about your colleague and I think it's your fault in the first place you should not recommend your colleague for the job you already... know he or her been fired and I don't blame your colleague but I blame you because you are not honest to your Boss and you make your colleague fill bad. more

I used to be a supervisor for the state of Texas. I believe it's illegal to ask such questions. Do they ask the men similar questions? It could be... perceived as sexual discrimination. more

I don’t think you should have to “play along” with a question that has nothing to do with your qualifications or ability to perform the job. An... interview should focus on your experience, skills, availability, and what you can contribute to the organization.

While not getting the position is disappointing, the question may have also given you valuable insight into the company’s culture. Sometimes an interview isn’t just about whether they want to hire you—it’s also about deciding whether you want to work for them. more