Am almost two years home. No work, no capital... What should I do

You have not made yourself unemployable; you took a career break to care for your family, and three years does not erase the skills, experience, and... professional value you had before the break. You should not apologise for the gap—instead, explain it confidently as a deliberate period focused on raising your child, while making it clear that you are now ready and committed to returning to work. Refresh your CV, update any relevant skills or qualifications, reconnect with your professional network, and be prepared to demonstrate what you can contribute from day one. Some employers may ask about the gap, but that does not mean they will reject you. Most importantly, do not allow the three years to define you; you are returning with experience, maturity and renewed purpose, not starting your career from zero. more

I’d probably explain the boundary one more time, but keep the conversation focused on results rather than availability.

If your performance and... responsibilities haven’t suffered, that’s an important point to make. Being committed to your job doesn’t have to mean being accessible every evening.

At the same time, I’d pay attention to how your manager responds. If the expectation is essentially unlimited availability despite strong performance, that may tell you something important about the company culture.

A healthy workplace should be able to distinguish between dedication and constant access. more

Unless the company policy provides for extra pay for overtime and time beyond your contract terms and conditions of service at work, as for not... engaging beyond 6 pm from work-related issues its ur right and time to attend to family matters and personal life as well more

Only by poor management

The challenges you are looking at will keep you young, competitive, motivated, and positioned for a bright future, even if its not with the company... you are currently with. Conversely, sitting at home, doom-scrolling, playing with the cat for 4 hours straight, will make you go double-bonkers. Keep working and learning, -only do it for you-and the skills you currently possess, so you can stack them for that COO position..!!  more

Perhaps the more useful question is not how long someone has stayed in a role, but whether they are still growing within it. Staying doesn't... necessarily mean stagnation, just as moving doesn't necessarily mean growth. What matters may be whether your capability, contribution and understanding continue to develop. more

Screw that career over brats anyday

Exactly! Nothing or Nobody is worth sacrificing your family. It could be that the job you wanted would probably not work for your family. Keep looking... God has good things in store for you. more

Permission and communication of time off are different. Communication to co workers and key interfaces on planned time off to make sure key aspects... or deadlines are covered is professional and courteous. If you are doing this then they should have nothing to judge you about.  more

Sorry to text this but that manager is just being stupid, may be they don’t have a life outside work.

Just a simple rest it is a great change of minds and high input at work place....even robots collapse here in kenya we understand there is time for... everything. more

All the best

Hope it helps.

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That’s a liability. Have a conversation with him and see if his dad needs a job and wants to work. If he doesn’t then tell him don’t come back based... on company policy. more

May be you hired a baby. Just lay off the baby.

i bet having a balance. but dont loose the job , it can cause other issues in the future for instance if you are the bread winner. it will make you... loose the affection you trying to protect very very fast.  more

Let us start with a saying 'your health, your family, your jos..in that order.
The stress affects your relationships and your health. Look at stress... first. All of us look for external factors to blame rather than looking inward. Make a list of all things that get you stressed. That could include too many hours at work, too many deadlines, too much interference. At home, has there been any change in your partner, are there many demands from family, are things like cooking, cleaning and laundry adding to stress.
Seek counseling if you need to. Have somebody clean your house and do laundry. Reduce time in the kitchen.
Leaving a job you love will make you resentful. More so if you do not land on your feet quickly. If there has been a change in your partner and you are drifting apart, you could end up with no partner and no job.
You may want to go away alone to a spa for a week and do your thinking without other influences, Then make your decision. Good luck. more

I was left, no questions, didn't even get the opportunity to tag along, and I wanted to. You do you, but don't let an so drag you down. The world is... absolutely only about money, and will screw you at every turn.  more

Follow your heart and remember your beginning matters

First things first. Enjoy your baby.
You can become more visible by coming to work one day a week or two half days a week. You can pick the days when... they have important meetings.
If your manager is still not satisfied, look for another job while you have this job. Remember a mention of a possible promotion is not a promise but you will have missed seeing your child grow up. more

Melody, very well said. That`s a very good piece of advise to both, especially the Hiring manager. Well done.

Then pay me like I'm indefensible. When it comes to vacation time. Or pay me double and triple time if they interrupt your vacation time. Respect my... time.  more

Yes,iknow most of this jobs come with responsibility.But in this situation you can argue your case using the terms and conditions stipulated in your... job description.Some bosses tend to veer off and forget that you are entitled to certain previledges like leave etc. more

This is a good example of why clear communication and trust are important in leadership. I would first have an open discussion with the employer and... explain that the remote arrangement was an important factor in accepting the position. If they cannot honor the original agreement, I would carefully consider the impact on my career, finances, and personal circumstances before deciding whether to stay or leave. The key is to make an informed decision while maintaining professionalism and protecting the trust between both parties. more

Be thankful for every opportunity you get to stay with the children! there are certain things no amount of money can buy: this is one of them!

Can you travel at short notice? If not, why are you getting upset that others can? If so, mention that you are available for travel. Maybe they are... putting your family first for you?... more

Depends on the manager. Some just want the work done and don't care if you check out early. Others can be stricter and want you on the clock the whole... time. Bottom line: Be up front with your manger. Honesty and Integrity always goes a long way. more

Depends on if you are paid by the hour or receive salary pay. If by the hour, then no, you shouldn’t be doing that but if salaried then it’s fine.

Uh, no. the manager is being unreasonable. Unless the manager pays your phone bill you can choose when and if you will answer your personal phone. ... That is also why we have office hours. I know a person that bought a second phone she uses exclusively for work contacts. When she is on vacation or off hours, she turns off the "work phone" and has told her directors when she is on vacation that she is on vacation and will address things when she returns. One of her directors pushed back and she told them that in their position they should be able to handle any crisis that could cross her desk. She went on vacation, turned off her phone, returned and discovered the office did not dissolve in her absense and there were no crisis that had to be diverted.
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One 11:30pm message may not tell you enough about whether you need another job. What may matter more is what the criticism reveals about the... expectations around your role.
Was this an exceptional situation where an urgent response was genuinely needed, or is being available outside normal working hours an unwritten expectation? And if it is an expectation, was that understood when you took the role?

It may be worth clarifying those boundaries before drawing a conclusion from this incident alone. If the expectation is routinely to remain available late at night, then you have something more concrete to consider: whether that way of working is compatible with the kind of working life you want.
The incident may not give you the answer, but it may have revealed a question worth answering. more

Did you send a thank you note after the interview? if not, you can and mention the wobbly chair was a distraction. That way you acknowledge the... wobbly chair. more

don't divorce him

why do you bring work home? do you have hard deadlines that must be met? if not, do not bring work home, it will still be there in the morning for... you to pick up when you get to the office.
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Learn to plan your work schedules within the normal operations hours. It is not also healthy for you to keep working beyond normal working hours... everyday. You are ruining your life. Find time to be with your spouse and family. It's not being a good employee to carry work home. If you fail to complete work all the time it's either you are overloaded and your supervisors need to rebook at your job description or you may be failing to delegate to your juniors if at all you have. Worse still you may not be working hard during normal hours hence failing to meet targets and you end up carrying work home. Check your work culture  more