It is good you are aware your phone controls you, the best is to put yourself together and handle it ,

This looks like you are obsessed with your phone, call for a meeting with yourself and address the phone issue and move towards your heart.

I left a well paying job and started freelancing at home while taking care of my young family. The freedom of time gave me an opportunity to start a... backyard social enterprise to solve my fuel cooking needs (briquettes) and those of the community to date. 15years now and it has been the most fulfilling part of my life , that opened many other doors and opportunities for me. more

Yes. I did. I did not regretted. Money will not replace the only currency you have, which is time. You have spent your currency on your family and... yourself. Those who give their currency for money devalue their time just as the money they sold their time for devalues ​​over time. You will stay healthier more

For a remote workers the main concern is the work performance to be done perfectly not the whole time in a spot. So I think many freelancers are as... so. Managing time for other activities is part of the work suitabilities.  more

Family first, I understand the challenges you are passing through . I was also the victim i decided to Quit the job & take care for my children,... trusting in the lord you will get another job humbled to your desires. more

Family first, a kid of one still needs a lot of your care than other persons can give maybe if you have a trustworthy person like Mom, who take care... of the kids for you and you go for the work  more

No. Bottom line if you are getting your assigned work done there is no need for you to stay late. If your evaluation reflects that you don't stay... late, question where not staying late has affected your performance.  more

An after hours work event should not be mandatory. You typed "Now I'm worried. I'm being perceived as lazy". Are these your words? Has anyone in... authority called you that or said anything? If not, don't put unnecessary pressure on yourself. If yes, they should put it in writing and allow you time to respond. They haven't so why worry?  more

My honest advice: don’t accept the new job yet, but don’t reject it either. First, work through the numbers, career prospects, and—most... importantly—your spouse’s concerns. more

The new company is KSB

Your Manager is VERY CORRECT!
Just because she earns more than you do doesn't mean you should give in as you're planning to do. If you ask me, I see... it as a challenge for you as the man of the House to step up your game, by finding out how you can catch up and probably surpass her! Sharing your financial responsibility with her in exchange for her domestic responsibilities is not a good idea, if you ask me.
I would strongly suggest you cut your livelihood to fit your present income. STOP SEEING HER INCOME AS PART OF THE FAMILY'S INCOME! It's HER MONEY, bro!
If she willingly give, let it be after you have presented what you can afford. Don't EVER leave any financial obligation for her to handle, handle all financial obligations ACCORDING to your current means while you strive harder to increase your means. I say this as a husband and a family man myself!
The sanity and longevity of your marriage depends HEAVILY on sticking to your role as the BREAD WINNER of the House. Yes, she may augment occasionally and whenever she does, tell her to write down with the aim of paying her back ASAP!
I rest my case for now! more

Why EXACTLY are you working so hard, is it to cater for the needs of your family or because you want to build a career??? If the Primary reason you're... working is to cater for your family, then, know that you can't take up jobs that has room for family life! That job offer is designed for single men and women not a family person like you!
As for your husband, he should get busy with the process of starting his own business. Let him find a problem that people would pay to solve. Let him find the best of solutions and start getting paid. Nobody's supposed to be UNEMPLOYED in today's Nigeria. There are way too many opportunities out there for anyone to claim that he's unemployed! more

You can opt to have your lunch earlier before the meeting

Discussion during meal time is not bad habit as long as information shared is positive

There is no harm turning on your camera. In your home just find a suitable place were you can attend your meetings without disturbances.

The camera may capture unathorized personal and private data or information which offends Personal Data and Privacy Act and the Regulations thereto!!... An official discussion needs to be carried out around this. Remember these information may be shared to third parties. more

That’s an incredibly difficult situation, especially when you and your husband have both been dealing with employment challenges while trying to... provide stability for your family.

Regarding the unpaid wages, I would document everything you have—messages, emails, the days and hours you worked, the agreement regarding your pay, and any promises that were made about payment. Depending on where you live, there may be a labor or employment agency that can help you pursue wages you are legally owed.

At the same time, try not to let this experience discourage you from continuing your job search. Taking a lower-paying position to help your family wasn’t a failure—it demonstrated determination and a willingness to keep moving forward during a very difficult period.

Sometimes circumstances knock us backward, but perseverance means continuing to look for the next opportunity even when the path forward isn’t easy. I hope a much better opportunity comes your way soon.
Hope this helps... more

I don’t think you were being unreasonable. Commitment to your career is important, but so is being present for meaningful family moments—especially... something like your child’s birthday.

Occasionally, a role may require after-hours events or extra flexibility, particularly at more senior levels. But I’d be concerned if missing one event for an important family commitment is being interpreted as a lack of dedication. I’d probably have a conversation with the manager to better understand their expectations going forward.

Being committed to your career shouldn’t require proving that your job will always come before your family. Good organizations recognize the importance of both. more

I guess your boss never heard of "work life balance". If its not mandatory you have no obligaation to be there. And your commitments are inline with... your family responsibilities and values! more

Someone shall start Minding his or her business. He shall start knowing the limitations of every work. It is your dirty to work and go home and not... to destroy it. If the worker is not satisfied, such can leave peacefully. more

Hey Guys: Ease up. He is already feeling bad. Shaming him is not helping him. Instead, give him advice on how to make it right. My suggestion is to... fess up and apologise. more

You are paid for the competencies and skills you possess, not for your free time. Your boss is lying. A career in such an environment is dead anyway... because after a few years in such a workplace you will be spiritually dead too. more

Is this considered on-call or is it over and above. Frankly, you are being taken advantage of. Ask this question, “will someone die if you don’t... respond.” If the answer is no, then it just isn’t that important.  more

YES.

YES.

You are not married. Both of you build yourself, your career, your life, the rest will fall into place either with that person or without that person.

I understand your pain, but trust me, I'm in the same shoes, and the best advice I can give you is that Family comes first. If you're a man, I suggest... you speak reasonably with your partner, communicate clearly, and be open to listening to her so you know what she really wants.
On the other hand, if you're a lady like me...Hmm, I suggest you also speak clearly and be open with your man; I am currently experiencing that, and I couldn't travel because I have 2 kids. Guess what I had to let go.
A job lost can be found, but a family lost is dead gone. My opinion, though. more

Thanks so much Steven

Hey where are you from if i may ask sounds like you should look into construction or the being security. Pay well and flexible.

Just learn to be flexible

Is there a time zone difference that requires meetings to take place after 5? Need more context.

It’s unfortunate that some won’t confront their management when situations such as yours occurs. Simply put you deserve to get compensation for the... work you do. Now it’s not uncommon for individuals considered “management “ to work extra hours, but when it comes to you working the extra hours there’s a problem. Have the conversation, be professional and never think of it as personal, yet strictly business. more

Right up to the point that you feel it is and the financial remunerations are not there. Frankly, I would argue it’s already passed acceptable.

Only unless you don’t understand the rules of the game. If unlimited vacation meant you also have to keep up with your workload , it was either not... communicated or you were not paying attention. more

None, work is work, remember the manager also take instructions from the above just give three days on-site a chance. You've been working 5 days... on-site before you started working at home. Been there done that, and there wasn't a problem. Keep up the good work.  more

None of the options. I will give the 3 days onsite work a trial.