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My Husband Can't Get a Job. Should I Divorce Him?

My husband is a very smart and capable person, but he became very sick in early 2020, and he has barely worked since then, despite tirelessly applying for positions. What can he do?

We recently moved so I could go to graduate school for music, but the stress of trying to make enough money to live on (even with help from my mom) has made it nearly impossible to focus and develop my skills. It's... literally ruining my life.

Currently he is doing an online master's program in computer science, but I worry that this will not improve his prospects. I don't really want to get divorced, but I think about it constantly. It's just too hard trying to support two adults as a nonprofit administrator. I can't live this way for the next 30-40 years.

Thanks for your help,

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Omar Ali
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No give him more chances
Nyoko Stringer
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Seek counseling because that’s a very shallow way of thinking instead of understanding how hard the job market has been on everyone and that you’re... gambling on the fact that it will potentially get better when you can very well still be struggling in the end. You didn’t think this one through and it shows. more
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'Jobs Are Limited': Indian Woman Sparks Viral Discussion About The Harsh New Zealand Job Market

An Indian woman in New Zealand shares the harsh realities of job hunting as a migrant, sparking widespread online discussions about local work opportunities

An Indian woman living in New Zealand has sparked widespread discussion after sharing her struggles finding work as a migrant. Her candid social media post highlighted the challenges newcomers face in the job market. This topic resonated with... many online, prompting others to share their own viewpoints.

Starting life in a new country often comes with high hopes of better opportunities, but reality can be more complex. For many migrants, securing that first job is the toughest hurdle, especially in markets that prioritise local experience. The woman, who recently moved from the US to New Zealand, explained the situation candidly in a video posted on Instagram.

"Ever since I moved from the US, a lot of my friends from both the US and India have asked me about the job market here," she said. "Honestly, right now, it's pretty tough. Jobs are limited, and companies often prefer people with New Zealand experience over newcomers. It's not impossible, but it does take patience and persistence."

Alongside her video, she shared a caption reflecting her mindset during this period of uncertainty, "Not every chapter is picture-perfect. Right now, it's about patience, consistency, and believing in myself even when things feel uncertain.

Job hunting in a new country isn't easy, but I know this phase is shaping me into someone stronger. Better days are coming."

Her post struck a chord with many viewers, leading to numerous comments sharing similar struggles. One user wrote, "5000 applications and got one." Another mentioned, "The job market is really bad, 110+ applications in over 5 months."

Others highlighted the importance of local experience, with one noting, "If there's one job in New Zealand, there are 10 jobs in Australia, 100 in the UK, 1000 in the USA."

Some commenters offered a more nuanced perspective, emphasising that opportunities exist depending on skills and approach.

One explained, "From a recruiter's perspective, this isn't entirely true. New Zealand faces a skills shortage. It depends on what you've studied, where, and how you present yourself. The market is tough, but patience can pay off." more

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Job Application Submission Support

I need support submitting 100 job applications on the applicant's behalf. I will give you the résumé, plus any screening answers I want used. Your job is simply to drop the information into each portal -- no cover-letter tailoring or extra writing is required. Payment terms are straightforward: $0.10 for every application that matches my instructions and can be verified by confirmation email or... tracking link, for a total of 100 submissions. What you'll do * Log in with the credentials or guest options I provide. * Complete each form accurately, attach the résumé, and hit submit. * Record every submission in a shared spreadsheet (company, role, date, confirmation link or screenshot). Accuracy is critical here; I'm paying per correctly filed application, so attention to detail and basic familiarity with portals like LinkedIn, Indeed, Lever, Workday, and Greenhouse will make this quick work. If these terms fit and you can finish all 100 applications within a week of receiving the materials, let's get started. If there are any questions on the application that are not my screening answers, tell me or skip to the next application. more

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I haven’t been working at a small company for long and like to give my coworkers small gifts on holidays. It helps make the workplace friendly. Everyone is happy to get my gifts, but no one gives me anything back. It’s not about the price, even a cheap gift would be fine. It's the thought that matters. But my coworkers don’t seem to want to spend money. I don’t understand, are they just cheap or... do they not want to give gifts to me? I think I might stop giving them presents.

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Mvuselelo B Nzama
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What you are doing is truly admirable. It shows that you genuinely care about others. However, it is important to remember that not everyone shares... the same beliefs or way of thinking, and it is not possible to impose your perspective on others.

Give because it reflects who you are, not because you expect something in return.

God gives us a gift everyday “life” “breath” but we fail to say thank you to Him but still He gives everyone the same oxygen even those that do evil. He asks us to also do the same.

Love those that don’t love you back.
Return bad with good.

So check your act of giving
Is it based on the unlimited God or its something that you are doing from your own human heart and for your own glory and praise.

If it’s from the love of God = unconditional
If it’s from your own human heart = conditional

So continue…..
The world needs more people like you. more

Nikolas Rumeliotti

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Hello! It’s an open position in my department and we’re choosing between two candidates: an experienced 48-year-old man and a recent college graduate with no experience but very motivated. I prefer the second candidate, as she will learn fast and work well. But our company director wants to hire the experienced man. To me, he seemed a bit dry and a little tired.
Who would you choose? Thanks for... your advice

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Uma Aggarwal
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Interesting situation. Boss prefers an experienced person, because he may get up to speed faster and might stay longer. The young person has a good... personality but lacks experience. She may need a lot of hand holding and may move on sooner. If the department is small, I would go with the man. In a larger department, training the new recruit may not appear to be a big burden and you could go either way. Do not be swayed by personality alone. more
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CA Native
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Experience is always better, always. If you get into a car accident and they have to cut you out of the car, do you want someone who’s first day is... today, helping you or do you want a veteran with experience? more

Jarmila O’Neal

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I’m really confused about how to answer the salary question in interviews. After reading a bunch of “tips” online, I said that “a comfortable range for me is from … to ….”. But they told me I wasn’t a good fit because I’m not a straightforward person and give vague answers instead of being clear.
So what’s the right way, should I state an expected salary?

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Rose Okee
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What about the question on relationships with my boss if granted the job
J M
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Thank them for being honest and open. Your salary answer may have put you over the existing pay scale. Feel free to ask for advise - now that my... interview is over what would you suggest I do on my next interview? Wait for an answer and leave. If I am not a fit now better to know it now.
As far as salary range lossdog.com is working on a program to help in this area more

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Resume Content Tailoring

I have a set of existing résumés that need purposeful rewriting so they line up perfectly with different seniority levels and roles. The scope is entirely on two areas: * Work Experience - every job title must be sharpened, each description rewritten to emphasise relevant responsibilities, and key, measurable achievements added or re-phrased for stronger impact. * Skills - I only need the... language-proficiency portion updated so it speaks directly to the target roles while staying truthful and ATS friendly. No changes are required in the education section or elsewhere. Deliverables - A revised version of each résumé in editable Word format and clean PDF - Clear, quantified bullet points under Work Experience that match the appropriate experience level - A concise Language Proficiency entry that fits naturally within the Skills section I'll review for tone, accuracy, and keyword alignment; once everything reads smoothly and passes ATS checks, the project is complete. more

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50-Year-Old Unemployed Woman Who Has Sent In 4,000 Job Applications May Have To Move In With Her Mom After 'Relentless' Rejections

In an interview with The Independent, Tina Chummun, who has sent out a total of 4,000 job applications with no luck, admitted that due to not being able to get a job, she's had to make some hard decisions regarding her living situation.

Job hunting is nothing but stressful, especially in this current market where unemployed people are having to fight tooth and nail just to get an interview. Some... people are spending months and even years without success and feeling incredibly defeated. For individuals in midlife, however, the situation is particularly volatile.

For the past two years, Chummun has sent out thousands of job applications, but because she hasn't heard back or had much success getting hired, she's now thousands of pounds in debt to her mortgage lender and is facing the possibility of having to move in with her mom. After losing her job in April 2024, Chummun has been working part-time selling her counseling and marketing services, but has been unable to earn enough to cover her bills.

Despite having an undergraduate degree, two master's degrees in marketing and psychotherapy, and being in her third year of a health and social care doctorate, none of her impressive qualifications are paying off at all. She insisted that the U.K. government needs to step in and help older people like her struggling to find a job because the job market isn't particularly kind to people her age.

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"I love working; it gives me a sense of purpose and meaning. I don't want to retire. It's so frustrating, and I'm trying everything... I want to get up and go to work. I don't want to claim benefits. I can't claim benefits because I'm self-employed, but I don't want to," Chummun told The Independent.

If Chummun is unable to find a job within the next year, she might have to move back in with her mom, who is currently supporting her financially.

RELATED: Hiring Managers Say These 4 Interview Questions Decide Who Gets The Job -- Here's How To Answer Them Confidently

Even in America, recent college grads are struggling to find employment. Although graduates from the Class of 2025 submitted more job applications than their 2024 counterparts, 10 and six, respectively, they received fewer job offers on average than did the previous class, according to the National Association of Colleges and Employers.

In a separate report by education technology company Cengage Group, only 30% of 2025 graduates said they had secured a full-time job in their field, and only 41% of the Class of 2024 said they had done so.

"For the first time in modern history, a bachelor's degree is no longer a reliable path to professional employment," Gad Levanon, chief economist at the Burning Glass Institute, told CNBC.

RELATED: Research Shows Most High School Students Have No Idea What Their Options Are After Graduation Other Than Get A Job Or Go To College

Findings from a study laid out the difficulties older workers have holding onto a job so they can retire on their own terms, even when the economy is doing well. Over the last several decades, more than half of the older Americans who had been employed in stable jobs have been pushed out of employment at some point late in their careers.

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AARP found that older adults are facing a plethora of reasons why it's hard for them to find jobs, and one of those reasons is age discrimination. Over the past three years, the number of age discrimination complaints filed with the federal Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC) has steadily increased. During 2024, there were a total of 16,223 complaints, up from 14,144 in 2023 and 11,500 in 2022.

RELATED: The Often Overlooked Job That's Actually Hiring & Not Being Replaced By AI -- And It Doesn't Even Require A College Degree

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Since she's consistently heard that she's overqualified or unsuitable for roles, Chummun would like to see similar efforts by the government to encourage older people back into the workforce. But in order for that to happen, companies need to be reminded that everyone deserves a fair wage for their efforts. That's exactly why so many Gen Zers are struggling to find work, as well. Entry-level jobs are disappearing, and the few that are available pay peanuts.

"Unemployment is rising, and wage growth is declining for young adults, which could have a long-term scarring impact," said Grace Zwemmer, associate economist at Oxford Economics and author of the Cengage report. Ultimately, the job market is a mess unless you are at the top

She explained that digital marketing is a particularly difficult field to get work in for older people, as it is "quite a young industry, and also there are lots of stigmas and lots of stereotypes about older people not being digitally savvy."

The reality Chummun has to face is disheartening, and it can surely feel next to impossible after probably hearing "no" so many times. Like so many others, both in the U.K. and the United States, she's simply waiting for something to turn around in her favor.

RELATED: Unemployed Woman Describes What It's Like To Be 'So Poor That You Can't Afford To Get To A Job Interview'

Nia Tipton is a staff writer with a bachelor's degree in creative writing and journalism who covers news and lifestyle topics that focus on psychology, relationships, and the human experience. more

Thomas Zejda

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I had a job interview for an economist role at a small company. They asked if I’d be willing to do more than what’s in the job description.
I asked how much more, and if it would help my career growth. The director and HR both said they don’t want someone so stubborn, they want loyal employees.
I didn’t get the job, and I don’t understand what I said wrong.
Thanks for your thoughts

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They were looking for something in you .. you could have dodged the bullet easily but saying so long as it falls within your qualifications you are... okay more
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They are looking for a slave for hire
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I work in Big Tech and always dress up for the office. My rule? No crop tops, but tight dresses are on a case-by-case basis.

She believes a certain level of polish signals competence, even in casual tech settings.

This as-told-to essay is based on a conversation with Crystal McDuffy, a 28-year-old marketing manager based in New York. The following has been edited for length and clarity.

I've always known that I wanted to work in tech. I felt that tech would bring me closer to the people and energy I wanted to be... around -- exciting, innovative, and interesting.

Although the dress code in tech is generally lax, my mom, who works in human resources, taught me about corporate culture and appropriate dress from a young age. I also felt that, as a Black woman, I couldn't get away with dressing casually in the same way some of my colleagues could.

My level of polish isn't typical for people entering tech, but it feels necessary to me. I've found that the way you dress definitely shapes your outcomes.

I've been promoted twice, and my first rating ever at the company was a Superb, the highest rating the company offered at the time.

When I was in college, a Big Tech company had a recruitment event on my campus. Afterward, I immediately applied for an internship with the company. I showed my application and résumé to a few mentors who had worked at similar companies, and after a bit of tweaking, I sent everything in. I had three behavioral and case interviews, all virtual, and then got an offer a few weeks later.

After the internship ended in 2018, we were first in line to interview for full-time roles. There was a similar interview process as for the internship, but this time with the addition of a writing assignment and an in-person interview.

A few weeks later, I found out I'd gotten the job. Going into my senior year of college with a job offer was a huge relief. After graduating, I started as an associate product marketing manager at the company in September 2019.

I started dressing up because I really like office wear. I grew up watching my parents wear office clothes, and I thought it was the coolest thing ever. I couldn't wait to be in a blazer and a pointed pump.

While my colleagues typically wear jeans and sneakers, I usually wear slacks, nice jeans, or a skirt with a button-down shirt and block heels or polished flats. This tends to read more mature, which is what I'm going for.

Crop tops are a no for me -- this is a hill I'll die on. Tight dresses are on a case-by-case basis. My rule is that you shouldn't be able to see the "shelf" of your butt -- where your butt stops and your hamstring starts. If the outline is visible, I feel that the dress is both too tight and probably made of some sort of thin stretchy polyester material, neither of which is acceptable for work.

I occasionally wear sneakers, often paired with something more formal to balance them out, which I feel is fine since I work in a smart-casual office, rather than a business-casual or business-professional one.

I tend to wear light-to-medium makeup, but nothing too glamorous or distracting. On a regular day, putting together my hair, makeup, and outfit takes about 40 to 45 minutes. If I have a special meeting or am going to be on camera or onstage, then I'll take about an hour and a half.

I'm well aware of the way Black women are perceived, and that it allows much less forgiveness when it comes to certain clothing or grooming choices -- specifically, more casual ones.

However, I dress the way I do for work because I want to. I'm aware of how it differentiates me, but that doesn't mean that I think that everyone -- especially all Black women -- needs to be as formal as I am, if that's not what they want.

People at work have commented on my attire, though never as directly as saying, "You dress well, that's why I promoted you."

Early in my career, I was invited to present at an important meeting that was pretty advanced for my career level. The person who asked me to present told me she trusted I knew how to act, which I took as a reflection of how I carry myself professionally. She trusted that I wouldn't dress inappropriately, like wear distressed jeans or show too much cleavage.

In most corporate environments, many people can technically do the job. Once you've demonstrated basic competence, what starts to matter just as much is how people feel about you. Do you speak with confidence? Do your leaders trust and like you? Are you someone others want in the room?

A certain level of polish helps you look competent, and dressing is a tool to convey the way you want to be.

At the same time, extreme beauty can sometimes work against you. If someone is exceptionally beautiful, their appearance may be top of mind for others, or colleagues may gossip about their looks. When conversations about your appearance start to eclipse your work, that's not ideal.

Focus first on being taken seriously, then layer in your own style and personality. Wear socks with a heart instead of a shirt with a big heart. Avoid overly long eyelashes or too high heels; I'd stick to a nice mascara or natural-looking artificial lashes, and a heel of a medium height instead.

I've been at the company for over six years, and I'm starting to reach the point in my career where I am much more relaxed about how I present myself.

I know the people I work with already perceive me as competent; I'm no longer proving myself. I'm less worried about looking older, but I still put effort into looking put together, as I'm aware of how it can help.

Do you have a story to share about how appearance and beauty standards have shaped your career or workplace experience? Contact this editor, Jane Zhang, at [email protected].

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I work in Big Tech and dress up to stand out and signal competence

Business Insider tells the global tech, finance, stock market, media, economy, lifestyle, real estate, AI and innovative stories you want to know.

This as-told-to essay is based on a conversation with Crystal McDuffy, a 28-year-old marketing manager based in New York. The following has been edited for length and clarity.I've always known that I wanted to work in tech.

I felt that tech... would bring me closer to the people and energy I wanted to be around -- exciting, innovative, and interesting.Although the dress code in tech is generally lax, my mom, who works in human resources, taught me about corporate culture and appropriate dress from a young age. I also felt that, as a Black woman, I couldn't get away with dressing casually in the same way some of my colleagues could.My level of polish isn't typical for people entering tech, but it feels necessary to me. I've found that the way you dress definitely shapes your outcomes.I've been promoted twice, and my first rating ever at the company was a Superb, the highest rating the company offered at the time.When I was in college, a Big Tech company had a recruitment event on my campus. Afterward, I immediately applied for an internship with the company. I showed my application and résumé to a few mentors who had worked at similar companies, and after a bit of tweaking, I sent everything in. I had three behavioral and case interviews, all virtual, and then got an offer a few weeks later.After the internship ended in 2018, we were first in line to interview for full-time roles. There was a similar interview process as for the internship, but this time with the addition of a writing assignment and an in-person interview.A few weeks later, I found out I'd gotten the job. Going into my senior year of college with a job offer was a huge relief. After graduating, I started as an associate product marketing manager at the company in September 2019.I started dressing up because I really like office wear. I grew up watching my parents wear office clothes, and I thought it was the coolest thing ever. I couldn't wait to be in a blazer and a pointed pump.While my colleagues typically wear jeans and sneakers, I usually wear slacks, nice jeans, or a skirt with a button-down shirt and block heels or polished flats. This tends to read more mature, which is what I'm going for.Crop tops are a no for me -- this is a hill I'll die on. Tight dresses are on a case-by-case basis. My rule is that you shouldn't be able to see the "shelf" of your butt -- where your butt stops and your hamstring starts. If the outline is visible, I feel that the dress is both too tight and probably made of some sort of thin stretchy polyester material, neither of which is acceptable for work.I occasionally wear sneakers, often paired with something more formal to balance them out, which I feel is fine since I work in a smart-casual office, rather than a business-casual or business-professional one.I tend to wear light-to-medium makeup, but nothing too glamorous or distracting. On a regular day, putting together my hair, makeup, and outfit takes about 40 to 45 minutes. If I have a special meeting or am going to be on camera or onstage, then I'll take about an hour and a half.I'm well aware of the way Black women are perceived, and that it allows much less forgiveness when it comes to certain clothing or grooming choices -- specifically, more casual ones.However, I dress the way I do for work because I want to. I'm aware of how it differentiates me, but that doesn't mean that I think that everyone -- especially all Black women -- needs to be as formal as I am, if that's not what they want.People at work have commented on my attire, though never as directly as saying, "You dress well, that's why I promoted you."Early in my career, I was invited to present at an important meeting that was pretty advanced for my career level. The person who asked me to present told me she trusted I knew how to act, which I took as a reflection of how I carry myself professionally. She trusted that I wouldn't dress inappropriately, like wear distressed jeans or show too much cleavage.In most corporate environments, many people can technically do the job. Once you've demonstrated basic competence, what starts to matter just as much is how people feel about you. Do you speak with confidence? Do your leaders trust and like you? Are you someone others want in the room?A certain level of polish helps you look competent, and dressing is a tool to convey the way you want to be.At the same time, extreme beauty can sometimes work against you. If someone is exceptionally beautiful, their appearance may be top of mind for others, or colleagues may gossip about their looks. When conversations about your appearance start to eclipse your work, that's not ideal.Focus first on being taken seriously, then layer in your own style and personality. Wear socks with a heart instead of a shirt with a big heart. Avoid overly long eyelashes or too high heels; I'd stick to a nice mascara or natural-looking artificial lashes, and a heel of a medium height instead.I've been at the company for over six years, and I'm starting to reach the point in my career where I am much more relaxed about how I present myself.I know the people I work with already perceive me as competent; I'm no longer proving myself. I'm less worried about looking older, but I still put effort into looking put together, as I'm aware of how it can help.Do you have a story to share about how appearance and beauty standards have shaped your career or workplace experience? Contact this editor, Jane Zhang, at janezhang@businessinsider.com.

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I’ve been working at a big bank for six months, and I still can’t get used to how people treat each other. Many employees look down on drivers, cleaners, maintenance staff, and kitchen assistants. They treat them like they are “lower”.
I can’t act like that and try to be kind and respectful to everyone. But my colleagues criticize me for it and even push me to be rude to support staff.
How can I... stand my ground and help others treat them with respect?

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Patrice Mack
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They can't push you to be rude, that is a choice you make. Perhaps you should criticize them for their behavior.
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Bryson Kapalu
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Read about the work strike by British sewerage workers in the 1970s, then you will realize how the so called dirty job workers are important in our... lives just like any other white collar jobs are. We should learn to respect any profession irrespective at what level they are. more
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