Just learn to be flexible

Is there a time zone difference that requires meetings to take place after 5? Need more context.

it depends on if they are monitoring how much work you are doing at your console during the day and if your performance can be evaluated over this.... Barring that, the other concern would be if you want to go further in the company by requesting more work and being seen as more of a standout, if that is not already happening. more

For a remote workers the main concern is the work performance to be done perfectly not the whole time in a spot. So I think many freelancers are as... so. Managing time for other activities is part of the work suitabilities.  more

I agree with the previous commentators, your mindset to earn and provide is commendable, it is the only way forward, and honestly cannot be taught.... Sometimes axioms that seem so bland and basic like "keep pushing", "the only way forward is up", etc are the only things we have to hold on to. I second the previous responder as well regarding how we are judged no by what happens, but how we respond. Your expressions of pain, being wronged, are all valid and you should feel them and process them. but just based on this little glimpse of how you have responded before, getting a job to make sure you had half a loaf, is going to serve you well. take some time, dust yourself off, and get back at it.  more

So sorry to hear your circumstances. You taking a "half of loaf" job is commendable. It demonstrates your commitment to making things work. If you... have a pay dispute, document EVERYTHING you believe you are owed and write a FORMAL letter and send to your old employer asking for the pay. If they refuse, you have other remedies through your state's Labor department. Did you have to go out and purchase a NEW laptop? Maybe reaching out to your network with an ask for someone's unused one may have been a better option. Hang in there. This appears to be a temporary setback. Remember, we are judged not by what happens, but how we respond .  more

You need to understand and weigh in , does my phone contribute much more to my gaols as compared to my job .Then develop a practical methodology to... help me detach from your phone obsession  more

Negotiate by asking when the 24/7 obligation exists. Those comments b4 mine are correct: you must clarify what type of job/career this is. If in the... health field, 24/7 is sometimes required, but limitations (lawful and legal) exist. It may be that your availability is every other day, or "on-call" certain days of the week. Start inquiring there and negotiate what works for your healthy boundaries and lifestyle. more

I dont think this was a good move. even if you have an adversarial relationship with this person who had the secret interview, there are two possible... outcomes : 1) they get the new job and leave, and you are free of that person and can show your skills to management to fill the gap, or 2) they do not get the job, and still the answer is to just try to do your work better for the team/company if you want to get ahead. Throwing someone under the bus doesn't make you better at your job, and even if you did this out of a perceived sense of loyalty to your management, it seems like this person may have been favored over you already by management and that means that they are likely to replace this person with an outside hire rather than see you as "next in line" as you might expect without actually getting merit based recognition beforehand. more

Apologize to your co-worker for the betrayal (if they truly told you in confidence) and move on. Next time, it is probably best if you keep such... information to yourself. more

Truly senior roles have people reporting to them that you are able to train up and spread the workload across. If there is a need for 24/7 response in... your work, so be it, but good leadership from your boss would acknowledge that you can spread this on-call duty among other employees on a rotating basis so that 1) nobody burns out, 2) if someone takes a vacation or leaves the company, whatever is driving this 24/7 need is not going to hamstring the company. if this isnt an on-call duty role and is about sales, sales support, or client relations, the answer is still similar. An effective "boss" will recognize that for the sake of the business, he/she cannot rely on only one person to be able to answer whatever questions they feel they need to ask 24/7 on slack, they need some redundancy or be able to answer the questions they are asking themselves.  more

You need to set boundaries. You define your role as "senior", but what does that mean? If you are in the "C" suite, then expectations are different.... Letting your supervisor know you can be available at certain times but not 24/7 should not sink your career. If they respond negatively, they are being unreasonable and you should look elsewhere for work. more

Hell yes. Take your vacation or have them reimburse you if you don’t go!

I would tell him no and I will see him when I get back, because that job isn’t going nowhere

It is illegal. The lunch time is feedrally mandated but the labor regulations.
It is not his time to spend and it is not optional.

Change your lunch time!

Great job turning down an after-hours event to be with your child on their birthday. Stick to your principles. Your family will remember your... participation in a major life event far more than anyone will remember what happened at that after-hours work event. Think of it this way: If your child is 10 years old, they have been alive for 3,650 days, yet they have only had 10 special days to celebrate their birthday. You never get back those opportunities to be with family on those special events. more

I don’t think you were being unreasonable. Commitment to your career is important, but so is being present for meaningful family moments—especially... something like your child’s birthday.

Occasionally, a role may require after-hours events or extra flexibility, particularly at more senior levels. But I’d be concerned if missing one event for an important family commitment is being interpreted as a lack of dedication. I’d probably have a conversation with the manager to better understand their expectations going forward.

Being committed to your career shouldn’t require proving that your job will always come before your family. Good organizations recognize the importance of both. more

Please do not take this comment as harsh, but if you have no suitable quiet place to do your work on a video call, then maybe remote work is not... suitable for you, or your employer. more

There is no harm turning on your camera. In your home just find a suitable place were you can attend your meetings without disturbances.

Why does what one EARNS have anything to do with division of household duties?

Your Manager is VERY CORRECT!
Just because she earns more than you do doesn't mean you should give in as you're planning to do. If you ask me, I see... it as a challenge for you as the man of the House to step up your game, by finding out how you can catch up and probably surpass her! Sharing your financial responsibility with her in exchange for her domestic responsibilities is not a good idea, if you ask me.
I would strongly suggest you cut your livelihood to fit your present income. STOP SEEING HER INCOME AS PART OF THE FAMILY'S INCOME! It's HER MONEY, bro!
If she willingly give, let it be after you have presented what you can afford. Don't EVER leave any financial obligation for her to handle, handle all financial obligations ACCORDING to your current means while you strive harder to increase your means. I say this as a husband and a family man myself!
The sanity and longevity of your marriage depends HEAVILY on sticking to your role as the BREAD WINNER of the House. Yes, she may augment occasionally and whenever she does, tell her to write down with the aim of paying her back ASAP!
I rest my case for now! more

There is far more to job satisfaction than a slightly higher pay bump and some pension. Are you happy in your current position? Do you see a good... future there?  more

My honest advice: don’t accept the new job yet, but don’t reject it either. First, work through the numbers, career prospects, and—most... importantly—your spouse’s concerns. more

You should only compare like to like situations. Are your friends making similar concessions and spending more time with family? Your time is your... most valuable asset. As the saying goes, "I've never seen a headstone that says "I wish I spent more time at the office"". more

I left a well paying job and started freelancing at home while taking care of my young family. The freedom of time gave me an opportunity to start a... backyard social enterprise to solve my fuel cooking needs (briquettes) and those of the community to date. 15years now and it has been the most fulfilling part of my life , that opened many other doors and opportunities for me. more

At the end of the day, your family will be there, the job or company might not be.

Family first, I understand the challenges you are passing through . I was also the victim i decided to Quit the job & take care for my children,... trusting in the lord you will get another job humbled to your desires. more

This is certainly a negotiation point. Do your calculations and come back with a counter-offer.

Generally the employer wants to cover your costs and then some. Adjusting in a new environment and new job is hard enough. You can share with them the... higher costs you will be facing. Do you have an option to say no? Is it a promotion? Is your current job being eliminated and they are trying to offer you another position elsewhere? Answers to these questions may help you decide how to approach your employer. Good luck. more

No. Bottom line if you are getting your assigned work done there is no need for you to stay late. If your evaluation reflects that you don't stay... late, question where not staying late has affected your performance.  more

An after hours work event should not be mandatory. You typed "Now I'm worried. I'm being perceived as lazy". Are these your words? Has anyone in... authority called you that or said anything? If not, don't put unnecessary pressure on yourself. If yes, they should put it in writing and allow you time to respond. They haven't so why worry?  more

YES.

YES.

You are not married. Both of you build yourself, your career, your life, the rest will fall into place either with that person or without that person.

I understand your pain, but trust me, I'm in the same shoes, and the best advice I can give you is that Family comes first. If you're a man, I suggest... you speak reasonably with your partner, communicate clearly, and be open to listening to her so you know what she really wants.
On the other hand, if you're a lady like me...Hmm, I suggest you also speak clearly and be open with your man; I am currently experiencing that, and I couldn't travel because I have 2 kids. Guess what I had to let go.
A job lost can be found, but a family lost is dead gone. My opinion, though. more

Thanks so much Steven

Hey where are you from if i may ask sounds like you should look into construction or the being security. Pay well and flexible.