A commitment to one's partner may very well be worth the cost. A commitment to one's spouse, on the other hand, is absolutely, certainly, without a... doubt, worth the cost. Many good marriages have been divorced simply because one partner or other has been unwilling to pay the cost of commitment. That is really the biggest issue with marriages today: it is so easy to divorce that even good marriages are lost, because the people in those good marriages have lost the vision that they promise to. "In sickness and in health" means commitment, whether that sickness is emotional or psychological, relational or, yes, physical. Commitment to a partner is trivial compared to that commitment between a man and woman bound in marriage. But that doesn't mean it doesn't mean something to you. Take your time to weigh it out. People say follow your heart. I think we need to balance that with duty and commitment. Consider the duties you have with your family; the commitments you have made. Then decide.  more

Many have chosen a relationship over a career opportunity. Many have chosen a career opportunity over a relationship... and regretted it. The reviews... here are mixed, in part because of how much context we are missing. You have the details of your life. We don't. So, the choice is yours. You might consider the following questions: How is my relationship with my partner? How much do I value the commitment I have with my partner? If partner is not also spouse: Would I consider marrying my partner [a marital situation Requires that the Commitment to one another be Prioritized.]? How many blessings do I have right here where I am? How many blessings can I anticipate in the place I might move to? What kinds of people can I bless right here in this place, because I know them? Can I find similar work right here? Can my partner find similar work to his current job there? What things that are important to my partner can be found there?  more

Did you indicate that in the contract? I believe it's not.
My advise is go back to the drawing board and negotiate the new developments. If they have... added another day, remuneration would have changed. And then request for a written contract for future safety. more

I prefer creating employment!

Any non-on-call role should safely anticipate their employees are at rest at such late hours. 7-7 is usually my rule. I do not expect immediate... responses during the evening to early morning. No traditional role should.  more

Yes!

Stupid manager, family will always come first before work. Time is fleeting and no one will ever remember that you spent your life at work.

Great job turning down an after-hours event to be with your child on their birthday. Stick to your principles. Your family will remember your... participation in a major life event far more than anyone will remember what happened at that after-hours work event. Think of it this way: If your child is 10 years old, they have been alive for 3,650 days, yet they have only had 10 special days to celebrate their birthday. You never get back those opportunities to be with family on those special events. more

Push back, your meal time to a certain extent is supposed to be your “me time” to help you reflect on your life.

Federal regulations require a break depending on total hours worked.
Attend the meeting. Eat lunch before or afterward. No need to make an... announcement. To limit interruptions, find a quite space away from your desk.  more

If you currently seeking for a new opportunity kindly DM me

Start applying elsewhere. Don't just quit.

Nope, it’s not about the time but what you put in the time. More time doesn’t necessarily equal to more productivity.

Naive?? Promotions and rewards are not granted for doing your job as hired. They are for going above and beyond your assigned tasks. Joining a... special project, bringing in new business, saving money, shortening deadlines, Learning a new skill that will benefit the company, and recruiting new employees are examples of above and beyond.
In addition, your "strict 40 hour boundary" may be a hindrance. If you like your work and the basic company, relax that boundary, once in a while to take on a short-term project.
Good luck.  more

I don’t think you’re being too cynical. A strong team should absolutely support one another when circumstances require extra effort, but that... shouldn’t mean employees are expected to sacrifice their personal time whenever the company needs overtime.

The phrase “we’re a family” can represent a positive workplace culture when it means people genuinely support and respect each other.
It becomes a problem when it’s used to create guilt or question someone’s loyalty for maintaining reasonable boundaries. Employees can care about their coworkers, take pride in their work, and still say no to overtime.

A healthy team earns commitment through mutual respect—not by making people feel guilty for having a life outside of work. more

I agree with the previous commentators, your mindset to earn and provide is commendable, it is the only way forward, and honestly cannot be taught.... Sometimes axioms that seem so bland and basic like "keep pushing", "the only way forward is up", etc are the only things we have to hold on to. I second the previous responder as well regarding how we are judged no by what happens, but how we respond. Your expressions of pain, being wronged, are all valid and you should feel them and process them. but just based on this little glimpse of how you have responded before, getting a job to make sure you had half a loaf, is going to serve you well. take some time, dust yourself off, and get back at it.  more

So sorry to hear your circumstances. You taking a "half of loaf" job is commendable. It demonstrates your commitment to making things work. If you... have a pay dispute, document EVERYTHING you believe you are owed and write a FORMAL letter and send to your old employer asking for the pay. If they refuse, you have other remedies through your state's Labor department. Did you have to go out and purchase a NEW laptop? Maybe reaching out to your network with an ask for someone's unused one may have been a better option. Hang in there. This appears to be a temporary setback. Remember, we are judged not by what happens, but how we respond .  more

Doesn't matter what we think! You made and agreement. AND why does your boss even know what was decided in your home? It's no one's business. Now... you suffer the consequences of his opinion. Please. Do not let his opinion affect your agreement and relationship with your wife. You opened a door that is not easily closed. Good luck.  more

The world has changed, one person earning more than the other doesn’t necessarily equate to one person being more ambitious than the other. At times... it’s just luck.
Don’t feel belittled, as long as you’re putting in your best, you can handle childcare and housework then probably transition to a high paying remote role. more

I think you can be honest without sharing every personal detail. There’s nothing wrong with saying you intentionally took time away from your career... to reset, reassess your priorities, and make sure you were ready to fully commit to your next opportunity. You don’t necessarily need to use the word “burnout” unless you’re comfortable doing so.

I also wouldn’t say you were traveling if that wasn’t actually the reason. If that ever comes up later, an unnecessary explanation could create questions about your credibility.
Instead, keep the answer brief, positive, and focused on where you are now: the time away served its purpose, you’re refreshed, and you’re ready for your next professional challenge.

A career break doesn’t have to be something you defend. Own the decision, explain it confidently, and then redirect the conversation toward what you’re ready to contribute next. more

Life is a series of trade offs, you can’t be everywhere or do everything at the same time.
Live and let live, stop comparing yourself with others... else depression kicks in. more

You should only compare like to like situations. Are your friends making similar concessions and spending more time with family? Your time is your... most valuable asset. As the saying goes, "I've never seen a headstone that says "I wish I spent more time at the office"". more

You just need to find a work around the company schedule or pad your CV and start looking elsewhere.
Work is work and family is family, don’t mix the... two. more

Just learn to be flexible

Nope, as long as you deliver to your best. It’s good to put some premium to your time, after all it’s what you trade for money anyways.

it depends on if they are monitoring how much work you are doing at your console during the day and if your performance can be evaluated over this.... Barring that, the other concern would be if you want to go further in the company by requesting more work and being seen as more of a standout, if that is not already happening. more

It’s just work, if you need the promo, just be available and the only way that can happen is my being online and by your phone. So you either take or... drop the promo. more

You need to understand and weigh in , does my phone contribute much more to my gaols as compared to my job .Then develop a practical methodology to... help me detach from your phone obsession  more

I'm trying to get myself and my family together, and honestly, it's been very challenging. As I speak, we really do not have much in the house to... eat, and I sincerely need help.
I need financial support, please 🙏
If you can help in any way, I will greatly appreciate especially for the sake of the kids.
I am also an experienced Virtual worker; I can work virtually in case you need an assistant. I will share my CV with you.
Thanks so much for your encouragement. I sincerely appreciate you all. more

At the end of the day, your family will be there, the job or company might not be.

That’s a very frustrating situation, especially after your company invested seven months helping move the project from having no permit or drawings to... finally receiving approval.

Before taking action, I would make sure everything is thoroughly documented—contracts, emails, meeting records, invoices, scope of work, hours spent, and communications showing what your company was asked to provide. I would then speak with an attorney familiar with construction law in your state before filing a lien or contacting the grant administrator.
Mechanic’s lien requirements can be very specific, including what work qualifies and strict filing deadlines, so you want to make sure any action you take is legally appropriate.

If payment is legitimately owed, I would pursue it professionally and through the proper channels rather than allowing the frustration of the situation to dictate the response.

Seven months of professional work has value. Protect your business, document everything, and make your next move based on the contract and the law. more

I would be very hesitant to cancel the vacation, especially after two years without a proper break and with money already invested in the trip.... Staffing is ultimately a management responsibility, and employees shouldn’t routinely be expected to sacrifice previously approved personal time because an organization is short-staffed.

I’d handle the conversation professionally and acknowledge the difficult situation while explaining that the trip has already been paid for and that you’re not in a position to cancel it. You could certainly offer to help prepare the team before leaving or make the transition easier, but I wouldn’t feel obligated to give up the vacation.

Being committed to your job is important, but maintaining reasonable boundaries and taking time away from work are important too. A healthy professional relationship should be able to accommodate both. more

Hell yes. Take your vacation or have them reimburse you if you don’t go!